Deciding to Become a Stay-at-Home Mama

stay at home mama, stay-at-home, stay-at-home parent, mom, dad, SAHM

stay at home mama, stay-at-home, stay-at-home parent, mom, dad, SAHM

This post contains affiliate links.  For more information, see my disclosures here.

I’ve worked hard the last three years, in a job that I love. I have poured my heart and soul into the programs I run and the families that we work with. But, my focus changed when my daughter was born in June 2016. I only took 6 full weeks off and then worked another two weeks part-time before returning to work full-time.  As time went on, I began to feel less joy in my job because I was missing her. I began to cut hours and take more time off, but it just wasn’t enough.

As of September 1, 2017, I will be a stay-at-home mama. I can’t be more excited to spend my days with our sweet baby girl (she’s not much of a baby anymore). I know this will be challenging and will be a huge transition for our family, but it is what my heart is telling me to do.

All of My Reasons Why

Our Daughter – I was missing important milestones and special time with her. She’ll only be a baby once and I can’t miss anymore of that time.  I was also never 100% satisfied with daycare.  I struggled to drop her off some days.

My Time – One of the activities I completed for a book I am reading (blog post about it soon) asked me to look at a week of my life and figure out how much time was spent doing each daily task.  When I looked at an entire week, I had spent 39 hours working and 13 hours spending time with Piper and Lee.  This isn’t acceptable anymore.

My Husband – I feel so drained at the end of the day, that I don’t feel like a good wife. I give all of my energy to the kids and families we serve at my job. By the time I return home at the end of the day, I have none to give to my family (especially my husband).

Our Home – Our house is always a disaster.  We live in a constant state of mess (hence, Live Love Mess). When the choices are to clean my house in the few hours between work and bed or to spend time with my family, I’ll always choose the latter.

Myself – I used to find so much joy in my job, but it just isn’t there like it used to be.  This will begin to have an effect on how well I perform my job and I’m not okay with doing a disservice to our kiddos and families.

The Health of my Family – I don’t have the energy to cook at the end of the day or to plan and prepare meals on the weekend.  We end up eating out or ordering in, which isn’t healthy or fiscally responsible.  I’m hoping that I’ll have the energy to provide my family with the meals they should be eating.

The Money – Because of my husband’s job, I am able to stay home. I don’t make much money in my current position, so it shouldn’t be too much of a change for us.  We’ll also be saving money on child care, eating out, gas, job related expenses, etc.  You can find more information on going from two incomes to one here.

Ergo baby Love Carries on/Journey

What I’ll Miss

My Staff and Coworkers – I work with amazing people, who have wonderful hearts  I will miss working with them and seeing their smiling faces.

My “Kiddos” and Families – I will miss seeing my kiddos every day.  We serve some awesome kids and families in the program.  It’ll be quite a change not to work with them anymore.

My Own “Thing” – People often say you lose a part of yourself when you become a stay-at-home parent.  I don’t know if that’s true or not, but I’m sure there will be days where I miss going off to work.  I’ll have more time to work on the blog, though, and that makes me really excited!

I’m excited about the future and to spend my days with Piper and Lee. My heart is very happy about these changes.

stay at home mama, stay-at-home, stay-at-home parent, mom, dad, SAHM

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *