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A more/less list changed my life.
I was reading the book, “Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More by Doing Less,” by Christine K. Koh and Asha Dornfest. One of the early chapters in the book asks readers to figure out the amount of time they spend doing daily tasks and activities, so they can prioritize those tasks. Tasks should include things like cleaning, self-care, family time, working, etc. I shared, briefly, aboutthe number off hours I spend with my family, compared to work, in THIS post.
After completing this task, you are to look at those items and write down how you feel about them. When you think about the task, what is the first thought you have? Essentially, the authors ask you to figure out which ones bring you joy.
Finally, the authors describe what a more/less list is. You are to make two columns on a sheet of paper. One column is labeled “More” and the other, “Less.” In the “More” column, you are to write down the items that bring you joy, the things that you want more of in your life. The less column is for things that you want less of. You would write things that don’t necessarily bring you joy.
I dislike cleaning and wrote it in my “Less” column. Cleaning, however, isn’t something that I am able to just forget about. In order to have a livable home, cleaning is necessary. So, I had to figure out how to make cleaning less of a burden. I did that by creating a home management checklist that breaks the cleaning tasks down each day. You can print your own checklist HERE.
The point of these activities is to prioritize your life. They aim to show you how much time you spend doing things that bring you joy and doing things that don’t. From this they want you to make decisions about how you live. Like I said above, cleaning was in my “Less” list, but it’s necessary, so I figured out a way to make it easier. Some items in the “Less” column can be cut out of your life all together and if that’s possible, I recommend it. You don’t want to have things in your life that are soul sucking. By getting rid of soul sucking activities, you free up time for yourself to do items in your “More” column.
Prioritizing your life will make you happier. It will put you in control. Even if you can’t get rid of some “Less” items, knowing that they don’t bring you joy gives you power. Power to change how you perform the activity or when you perform the activity. You can figure out how to take less time performing that task, so you can focus on “More” items.
I did the above activities and it was incredibly eye opening. I made major life changes because of my More/Less List and I feel so much lighter because of it. These activities played a role in my decision to become a stay-at-home mama, link in first paragraph.
I recommend the book to anyone, not just parents, because it is so full of great tips on decluttering your house and brain, making household finances simple, and getting rid of the extra stuff. The book was a really easy read and it had a lot of activities throughout that were meaningful, but simple to complete.